Happy Halloween!!

I bet you were wondering how little ole me celebrates all hallows eve?

By looking at all the amazing eye candy dress up to be unwrapped.

I hope you take this opportunity to fulfill any and all of your fantasies with your lover, spouse or playmate.

Dress up and set a play-date!

Hope you get all the “treats” you deserve.

Work on making it to Santa’s naughty list. I know I am.

xoxo

Dalia

Ask Dalia…

Question: “Can you use a sex toy on multiple partners?”

I find that since I am the wielder of #whoretips, I regularly get asked for my advice on situations of the dating/sexual relationship nature. Since I give these little nuggets of what I believe are wisdom, I thought I would start posting them here. I hope they are helpful or simply entertaining.

So… Here again is the question:

“Can you use a sex toy on multiple partners?”

I am going to assume first that this question is not about disposable items such as eatable underwear. Because of course the answer is: NO! This is closely followed by: What the Hell are you thinking?

But with normal sex toys?? I would have to say yes. However, there are a couple points to this which are 100% hygiene related.

First, and truly the most important, you HAVE to keep your toys clean. Even if you are only using them on yourself. I don’t mean throw them in the dishwasher. This can be bad, very bad, unless we are talking about glass toys, but again, you should most likely not put them in the dishwasher anyhow.

There are specific cleaners that should be used on sex toys. These will usually keep them from drying out and getting micro cracks where germs can hide.

Even if you are talking about items like handcuffs, sex pillows, blindfolds, sex-swings, ball-gags, etc, you want to make sure you keep these items clean. Anything that can come into contact with oraficies need to be nice and clean. 🙂

I do think that this question was not about so much the cleanliness “if” but the sharing “if” of using toys on multiple people.

The answer for me is I think it is fine.

Unless the person you are with specifically requests that you do not use a toy on/with them that has been used by another then I wouldn’t worry about it and also, I would not feel the need to volunteer this information. Similar to the “How many people you have been with before them?” it is not information I would volunteer without 1) being asked and 2) wanting to form a long term bond with that person.

I hope this helped and may your toys be plentiful.

xoxo

Dalia

P.S. If you have a question, please feel free to ask me here or email me dalialance@gmail.com. I would love to help you with your question if I can.

Buy My Book!

I know, I know, shameless request to support me (and my fellow Ink Slinger’s) in our latest collection of short stories.

Serenity Rising which you can purchase here.

See description below:

xoxo

Dalia

The collections of short stories by the Ink Slingers Guild (ISG) are based on a writing exercise done at every ISG meeting. The exercise must include the chosen words. The words that were chosen this year were: • Apothecary • Satin • Succulent

•Maggie Baker can’t think of anyone to ask to wear her corsage at this year’s First Days Celebration. After a visit from her fairy godmother, Maggie concocts her own Prince Charming, but when Charle arrives, things get more complicated than she bargained for.

•In a high stakes poker game, four players gamble with more than just money.

•After a childhood of coping with a drug addict parent and traveling with gypsies, Annika’s life has finally calmed down a little now that she’s operating her aunt’s fortune teller shop in absentia… when in walks Fenn, a tall dark and handsome piece of her past, to mess everything up and pour a little more magic onto the fire.

•Grayson Forsythe thought he had left his past behind, but unforeseen events force him to return home and assume the family title and responsibilities he never sought. Unexpectedly, reunited with a woman from his childhood, can she awaken his heart and help him claim a future he never knew he wanted?

•A monster loses a friend but finds love.

•An exciting adventure at sea turns dark when a storm veers Sarah and Molly off course without a sail or drinking water. Will they find aid on a lost island?

•Tasha is a celebrity. She has 11 potential mates when normally you only have 2-5. Christian has 10 and both have reality TV shows detailing every detail of their lives. Can they find “the one” before they are left with the Last Man on Earth?

•In the middle of the night Rachel Davenport is about to find out the things that you can see are not the things you should be afraid of.

•Brynn has seen crazy. She is a nurse in the psych ward so crazy makes up most of her day. Then she meets Jacob, a patient who sees “monsters”. What happens when what she thought as only delusion prove to be real?

Each story is an adventure, sit back and enjoy as the Ink Slingers Guild take you to the Serenity Rising.

 

Ask Dalia…

Hello All,

I find that since I am the wielder of #whoretips, I regularly get asked for my advice on situations of the dating/sexual relationship nature. Since I give these little nuggets of what I believe are wisdom, I thought I would start posting them here. I hope they are helpful or simply entertaining.

Also, if you have a question, please feel free to ask me here or email me dalialance@gmail.com. I would love to help you with your question if I can.

So… Here is the question:

“At one point are you “in a relationship””?

The age old, how and when do you “name the puppy”?

Well boys and girls, I think it is funny when I hear people tell me that they don’t know if they are in a relationship or they tell me that they are waiting for the other person to tell them or declare it or something.

So weird.

It is really a simple thing and something you should be communicating with the person you may or may not be in this “relationship” with. Ask them!

If you find you want to be with that person, then you should probably make sure the feelings are mutual. That way you can’t be disappointing if you are more invested then they are or will be.

Before you mentally commit fully, find out if you are both in it for real.

xoxo

Dalia

Ask Dalia…

Hello All,

I find that since I am the wielder of #whoretips, I regularly get asked for my advice on situations of the dating/sexual relationship nature. Since I give these little nuggets of what I believe are wisdom, I thought I would start posting them here. I hope they are helpful or simply entertaining.

Also, if you have a question, please feel free to ask me here or email me dalialance@gmail.com. I would love to help you with your question if I can.

So… Here is the question:

“How long does it take to meet the real person you started dating?”

This question is amazing!

I would like to put the disclaimer that if you are in a “relationship” that is really only a playmate, you might not want to get to know them very well. After all, the more you know the more a connection forms. So, keep it to a first name only basis.

However, if you are looking for Mr. or Ms. Right, I have found that most, not all people tend to not present themselves fully until about six months into the relationship.

I can understand why people tend to try to put their best foot forward when starting to date someone, however, if that is not who you really are, then you will end up possibly disappointing the other person.

A very good friend once told me something that has been so true for me for years. He said, when he starts dating someone, if he finds he thinks that it is something he wants to pursue then he lets that person all the way in. He let’s them see the real him. He also tells them that one of his best friends is an ex-girlfriend. He feels that if a person cannot handle him with all of these things, then he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with them. It is that simple.

So, I say be yourself, but be prepared that the person you are seeing is not being themselves all the way and there may be a different person underneath.

So, happy hunting!

xoxo

Dalia