Ask Dalia…

Hello All,

I find that since I am the wielder of #whoretips, I regularly get asked for my advice on situations of the dating/sexual relationship nature. Since I give these little nuggets of what I believe are wisdom, I thought I would start posting them here. I hope they are helpful or simply entertaining.

Also, if you have a question, please feel free to ask me here or email me dalialance@gmail.com. I would love to help you with your question if I can.

So… Here is the question:

“Should I have friends make the ’emergency call’ when out on a date and use that as an excuse to get out of that date?”

The age old “emergency call”,  I am actually surprised that anyone falls for this anymore actually. I think most people, in general, are very trusting at first until given a reason not to be be, and so, this is why it works.

The answer is not so black and white unfortunately.

I believe first and foremost, regardless is you are a guy or a girl, if you are meeting up with someone for the first time, someone, anyone, should have as many details as possible about your location. If you turn up missing or worse, then at least they have a lead.

My suggestion is minimally write all the details down on a note you stick to your fridge. Leaving clues is always good.

On the emergency call, that depends on the person you are with and your courage to not let yourself be in a bad situation. I say courage, because if you are walking away from a date or hook-up, there is a reason. If the person is going to be crazy mad or a stalker, it doesn’t matter what approach you take they are still going to do that.

You can set-up a checking in text to make sure you got to where you were going safely and that you are alive. I wouldn’t use this to remove yourself from a situation. If you don’t want to be there anymore… walk out.

If you just don’t see a spark or are not interested, TELL THEM!

There is nothing worse then the void of missing information as to where you stand. Let them get mad, upset or weird. You actually have all the control. You should use it.

Or if it is horrible, excuse yourself to the bathroom and leave. Contact them and tell them why you left so they are not left wondering. Getting angry emails or texts allow for ignoring them and most services have a blocking feature anyway.

So remember, dating and playmates is an adventure. Sometimes you find yourself in unpredictable situations. Remember always, you are in charge of what happens next!

xoxo

Dalia

Ask Dalia…

Hello All,

I find that since I am the wielder of #whoretips, I regularly get asked for my advice on situations of the dating/sexual relationship nature. Since I give these little nuggets of what I believe are wisdom, I thought I would start posting them here. I hope they are helpful or simply entertaining.

Also, if you have a question, please feel free to ask me here or email me dalialance@gmail.com. I would love to help you with your question if I can.

So… Here is the question:

“If I go on a date with a person that I met online, am I obligated tell them that I have other dates set-up if they ask me out for a second date?”

This is a tough one.. just kidding.

The real question I would ask yourself is, what is the end game? Are you looking for a relationship? Or are you simply looking to date?

I am a firm believer that you are not required to give away any information to a person you are basically just meeting.

We as humans, have a tendency to think we know a person WAY more then we do when we first meet them. I mean, after all, if you hit it off really well, then it might feel that way.

However, the truth is you are meeting the person they want you to meet. Unfortunately, more often then not, it is not the person they truly are. It usually takes some time for that person to arrive to the party, so to speak.

One thing to establish rather quickly is what are you looking for? What are they looking for? If you want a relationship and they just want to date, or vice versa, then it will not work. If you are both on the same page then it will.

You do not have to decide right then if they are the one. That is why you date at first, to see if you want to continue.

So, my advice, as long as you are not telling a lie, meaning if they ask you if you are seeing other people, then be honest, I wouldn’t volunteer that information. I would see where it takes you (and them) and then decide if you are going to continue to play the field or stick with that one someone.

xoxo

Dalia