I find that since I am the wielder of #whoretips, I regularly get asked for my advice on situations of the dating/sexual relationship nature. Since I give these little nuggets of what I believe are wisdom, I thought I would start posting them here. I hope they are helpful or simply entertaining.
Also, if you have a question, please feel free to ask me here or email me firstname.lastname@example.org. I would love to help you with your question if I can.
So… Here is the question:
“When is it appropriate or ideal to ask your partner for a threesome?”
Of course I think there isn’t a bad time to ask. However, there are a few things to consider before you jump into this question.
First is where are you at in your relationship? Is it a relationship? Are you just playmates?
If you are just playmates, the answer is easy… Ask away. Be prepared, however, that your playmate might be only looking for one-on-one games. If a multiple partner situation is what you are looking for, be up front with your needs. That way you do not end up with the disappointment in the long run either.
Now, if you are just starting an actual relationship with someone and this is something you want or need, again be up front with the person.
A word of advice that encompasses more then the topic above is that if you have things you need out of a relationship you are going into, then you need to make sure that you gain the agreement from your new Boo that they are on board to give you or take part in those things. If you surprise them suddenly with it later on then you can be in for a shock when you can’t have it or worse they walk away.
Lastly, if you are in a relationship for a long time and want to possibly spice it up a bit, asking for a threesome can be tricky. Make sure if you are asking this with the understanding that your partner might take offense that they are not enough for you or that you need something more than they can give you.
Also, be prepared that if you are not in a same-sex relationship and you are say, a guy asking for a girl to join you and your girlfriend, then you should be willing to allow a guy to join you two as well. Fair is fair.
Always be willing to speak your mind, but don’t do it at a low point in your sex life, make it an addition. That way your partner knows it is to take you both to the next level and not recover from a slump. Also, be willing to be told “No” and find another way to heat your loins back up.