It occurred to me today that there is a very interesting and diverse definition of what a “slut” is.
I think traditionally it has meant someone, usually a female, who “sleeps around”.
This my friends is another example of where the actual definition of this delightful term, which actually means “a slovenly, untidy woman or girl” has now come to mean a woman who is “an immoral or dissolute woman; prostitute.” (Thank you dictionary.com)
Now to the part that got me thinking. How or who determines if a girl is a “slut”. I think I want to first remove the idea that this person has to be female. I think for the sake of gender equality we may want to just say, how do we determine if a person is a “slut”?
Well, I think we would have to categorize it. This seems the only sensible thing to do with this highly ridiculous label.
So, how about we use the below criteria:
1.) They have had sexual relations with a certain number of people?
Sex being loosely defined as: you played with their cash and prizes and they played with yours. Penetration is not required. I know more woman who think giving a blow-job is more intimate than sex. Anyhow, I am digressing.
2.) How quickly upon meeting this person that said sexual encounter occurred?
3.) What is the number of persons verses the amount of time?
4.) Was protection used?
With all of these points to consider, I am sure each person reading this could put together their formula that makes the person they are using the calculation ready for labeling. The problem is, it is arbitrary.
Here is my calculation on the above points and yes, in case you were wondering, I am going to go point by point. 🙂
1.) Have sex with as many people as you want and that want to have sex with you.*
* Of course, a) Don’t do this if your in a monogamous relationship. Cheating is the worst. If you want to play with someone other than your committed partner, then break it off with them. Go, play, but not at the expense of the feelings of someone else.
2.) How quickly you decide to play tonsil hockey is up to you. There is no time limit or expectancy. If you meet someone and want to go get it on in the car, do it. It is your life and your choices. Make sure it is actually what you want and it makes you happy. Remember, there is such a very potent thing as ‘lust at first sight’.
3.) If your game is bagging more then one person in a day. Again, it’s your choice if your playmates are game.
Make sure you are always honest. If you just want to get “laid” and the person you are with wants a “relationship” then walk away. Any playmate you chose should know and agree to the rules of the game. (So many analogies, I love them in case you are wondering.)
4.) If you do not use protection you are a complete idiot. There is no other way to say it. Use protection no matter the quantity or frequency of your playing. Your motto should be: Safety First.
At the end of my look into what it takes to be a “slut” I think it actually is only possible to be called a “slut” by narrow minded individuals trying to make their viewpoint or opinion somehow more important then everyone else.
If you are comfortable with who you are, what you want and who you want it with and your partners feel the same way; have at it.
If someone calls you a slut, remember, there is no science behind them blurting that out. It is just them looking mentally untidy.